Hello Ladies,

Relationships, both healthy and unhealthy, continue to manifest itself in a positive and negative way. In an effort to help you gain some insight into this very complex area, here are a few contracts that hopefully will prove helpful.

• Reality vs. Fantasy – Healthy relationships are based on reality. There is no need to hide or try
to fool the other person. Each person is aware of the others strengths and weaknesses and will help to accommodate or strengthen it. Fantasy, on the other hand, is built on a foundation that isn’t
really there.

• Friendship vs. Victimization – Sometimes a healthy relationship can be described as two good
friends. It has been noted that some of the most successful and romantic relationships have this
kind of true friendship. On the other hand, should this be lacking, the relationship is shallow and
very susceptible to being marked by victimization.

• Forgiveness vs. Resentment – Forgiveness is a miraculous gift between two people. Relationships flourish when we are willing to forgive past hurts, betrayals and disappointments. What greater gift can we give someone than to set them free from the weight of their mistakes? This also allows us to free our relationships so they can become all they are become and their destiny fulfilled. Remember, when you build strong relationships, your mental well being is enhanced.

Be Blessed,

Dr. Dorothy J. Thomas
Source: CBN Media Center, SAMHSA